life unfolding

I've been thinking of a conversations I've had recently as we are at the end of one year and about to enter a new one.

At this time of year I usually engage in conversations about how the last year unfolded and what new things we're ready to create.

Yesterdays conversation in particular was interesting. We were talking about Vision Boards - one of my favorite new year rituals- and I found myself saying how SoulCollage is so much more powerful than a Vision Board.

Even though I believe Vision Boards are powerful tools to help you co-create your realty and is a must as one of the tools in the self-growth department, I have found SoulCollage to be more in alignment with creating space, showing up and watching what unfolds.

In the past when I created Vision Boards one of two things would happen. Regardless of how many images I would put on my board of money, a dream house, a perfect body and a couple holding hands I would end up with either the experience of manifesting everything on the board but still feeling the way I felt before or nothing would manifest on the board as I envisioned it so I end up reading between the lines. We think having a particular something will give us the feeling we are seeking to create and experience. But nothing shifts on the outside until we make the shift on the inside.

That's one of the beautiful things I discovered about The Intuitive Living Practice, how amazing it is when we let go of the things we think we need to be happy and allow life to unfold in it's own beautiful and Divine way.

When we create space in our energetic field by healing the parts of ourselves that are creating patterns in our lives and integrating them into the wholeness of who we are, then life takes on this beautiful, magical experience. We no longer try to create from our history - a history that told us that when we had certain things we would be happy, complete, fulfilled, fill in the blank.

In the space that we create, we allow life to unfold - naturally, elegantly, powerfully- in it's own Divine Timing and we get the privilege and honor of watching it unfold in all it's beauty.

When we allow life to unfold naturally in it's own Divine way, we create space for our children to have the same experience. We no longer try to control their life's outcome. We just trust in the unfoldment of it all.

With Love,

Maria

let life surprise you

I love rituals.

One of my favorite rituals is picking a guiding word for the new year which allows me to co-create the year ahead without all the New Year Resolutions. Because who likes New Year's Resolutions!

One year I chose the word surprise. I wanted a year full of surprises.

I remember my sisters' reactions to that word. They were so scared for me.

"Why would I pick the word surprise? What if the surprises are bad?" they wondered.

But what if what is in store for me is better than anything I can imagine for myself?

What if surprise meant that I am no longer predicting the future but allowing it to unfold naturally?

What if surprises are fun?

Could it be possible to let life surprise me?

One way we can know, really know, when we are still trying to control the outcome is relative to the amounts of surprises we experience.

So here's something cool to think about:

When we do the work of healing our history what happens is that our biofield starts to change. From my understanding, the biofield is the energy field that surrounds our body. Some traumatic experience from our past creates a glitch or tangle in our electrical signals forming. a pattern in our life that keeps repeating itself until it is detangled and released. This pattern keeps repeating itself so that it can heal. The act of being with the emotion that shows up for us when we react detangles that electrical current allowing our signature vibration to flow freely. That pattern, which is repetitive in nature, no longer exists. This creates space for you to experience something you have never experienced before. Or at least since it first became a pattern a long time ago.

Hence the word surprise. Allow life to surprise you. It's a good sign that you've been showing up to life!

With Love, Maria

there is no such thing as failure

Sometimes I feel like I sound like a broken record. At other times I believe it's worth repeating:

Finding yourself here, in this moment, where you can let go of your past and trust the unknown, takes practice. Daily practice. Even years of practice.

At least that was the case for me.

Trusting the unknown means you know four things:

1. Everything, no matter the outcome, will be okay.

2. You are being guided to live your highest potential.

3. There is no such thing as failure, only learning.

A couple of years ago I was diagnosed with cancer for the second time in my life. Three of my kids were teens and one was a tween. From the moment of diagnosis to the day of the surgery two months passed. Every day for those two months I would breathe into the moment. I knew, with every ounce of my being, that everything would be okay. Even if that meant transitioning. That knowing - that everything would be okay - is what I kept returning to. This practice doesn't guarantee fairytale endings. It just gives you the tools to breathe into each moment of your life knowing that no matter what, everything will be okay.

Every challenge, every success is guiding us to living our highest potential. Every experience, if you choose, can be a guidepost. The failing marriage, the job you hate, the sick child, they are all guiding you to make changes. All you need to do is pause and notice what life is trying to tell you. Then you can take the next inspired action leading you closer to where you need to be. My experience with cancer this second time around allowed me to let go of my fear that I was the only one who would be able to guide my children to their best possible lives. As my fears came up about what they were going to do without their mother and would they learn all the things I wanted them to learn, I began letting go. I began seeing their journey as their own, with or without me. I knew in my head that they were being led to their own personal journey but now I really got to feel it and believe it in my heart and soul. This feeling of "my kids are going to be okay" was the biggest gift I received from that time. As much as I write about trusting our children's inner guidance system, I'm still learning how to do that as well. And this was the perfect culmination of years of hard work.

Which leads me to the most powerful aspect of stepping into the unknown - YOU CAN'T FAIL.

Even death is not failure. Everything is an opportunity to learn. Even from your successes. When we are able to embrace this notion that we are always discovering more of who we are as we step into the unknown the more exciting the unknown becomes. When you transform your relationship with failure, you transform your life. The thing we need to heal and let go of is what failure means to us? When we can be with that part of ourselves that is afraid of failure, then we create space for our children to fail and learn.

Making peace with failure will free you to experience the unknown in new and exciting ways.

With Love, Maria