create space

At the heart of An Intuitive Living Practice is the art of creating space. We learn how to create space first in our physical world and then move on to our emotional and energetic world. Regardless of where you are in the journey, we will always come back to this - creating space in our body, mind and spirit.

I remember it clearly.

I had just come back from a therapy session where I was learning how to use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and found myself standing on the sidewalk staring at my front door.

I didn't want to go in.

The kids were really young, between the ages of 4-6, and the house was a constant mess.

As I stood there I knew that when I walked into my home I would be greeted with chaos - food and dishes all over the place, toys scattered on the floor and clothes strewn all over the place and my husband sitting on the sofa watching tv.

I just stood there crying. How could I feel such deep sadness over the things that I wanted and loved more than anything else - my children, my dream home, my husband? Why would I feel like running away instead of walking in?

At some point, in the midst of all the crying, I found myself in a moment of pause - a small crack between the part of me that was crying and the part of me that could see beyond.

In this pause I decided to try EFT.

As I began the tapping sequence I began to notice through the words and tapping that it wasn't the home or the husband or my beautiful children that was upsetting me. It wasn't the things that they used in their day to day lives that felt overwhelming. It was me.

I realized that all the chaos was caused by the things that I bought. My kids hardly ever used any of the things in my home. It was all the closets full of memorabilia that took up space. It was all the scrapbooks left to be finished. It was all the books that were unread. It was all the baking sets that took up space for the future me who wanted to bake, or thought should be a baker.

It was all mine. My paints. My papers. My arts and crafts. My baking sets. My books. My journals. My stuff. That was the resistance I was feeling before entering my home.

It was this moment where the word sanctuary was born in my heart and soul. I wanted my home to be a sanctuary. A place where I looked forward to entering and greeting everyone and everything. A place of peace and love and safety.

So let's take a closer look at what happened in this moment:

1. There was space. A small tiny crack. A moment of seeing something beyond that moment. That is the space we will learn to live in. We will learn to create these spaces between our small self and our higher self. In this space, we will learn to breathe and live and have our being.

2. Sanctuary. The feeling we will learn to access is sanctuary. A safe space. A place we want to return to over and over again. A place where we can breathe and love and play. It is this feeling that we will learn to cultivate in our homes, in our relationships, in our bodies, hearts and minds.

3. It's never what it seems. I thought it was my kids and my husband and all their stuff. I was projecting my own stuff onto them. Had I not stopped to listen to myself, to see what was really going on, I would have continued to believe it was all them and continue resenting them for making me feel so miserable. My stuff would still be filling up all the closets and spaces.

This moment. This crack. This pause. This was An Intuitive Living Practice in action. I healed a part of myself in that moment. A part of myself that wanted to be listened to and acknowledged. My letting go of my physical things to create a sanctuary in my home took years. But in that moment, everything changed.

It is my intention to show you how to create this space, a small crack in your own life where you can wedge your foot in and enter the sanctuary that is always within you.

With Much Love, Maria